Why you can't let anyone close

Closeness requires being seen incomplete. If you only let people meet the finished version, you will always be alone with the drafts.

You are not lonely because there is a shortage of people. You are lonely because the version of you people meet is final. Polished. Handled. Never mid-sentence.

You will not let anyone see the draft. And intimacy is what happens in the draft — before the answer, before the aesthetic, before you have decided what the story means.

So people meet the summary, not the woman. And a summary cannot be loved. It can only be admired.

Closeness is the willingness to be seen unresolved. If you cannot tolerate that, the loneliness is not an accident. It is security.

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