April 16, 2026 · 4 min read
On a scale of 1 to 10, where is your feminine energy? And why?
The number is easy. The 'why' is where the real work is. Whatever score you gave yourself, be honest about the reason.
Most women hover around a 4 or a 5 when I ask this question. Not because they are broken, but because they are being honest.
The number itself is not the point. The reason is. If you gave yourself a 3, ask: what would need to be true in my life for that to be a 6? Whatever comes up first is your assignment.
Usually it is not exotic. It is sleep. It is saying no to a person you keep saying yes to. It is a conversation with a partner that you have been rehearsing in the shower for six months.
Feminine energy does not go up because you feel more feminine. It goes up because you remove what has been suppressing it. This is subtraction work, not addition work.